For more than a year, the pandemic put distance between people like Stopfer and their friends and family members. As a growing percentage of the population gets vaccinated, they are slowly restoring those connections. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says it is now safe for fully vaccinated people to gather without social distancing, and Stopfer’s daughter, Abby, immediately jumped at the chance. She dropped in and surprised her mother with a long-overdue hug.
“It was marvelous to feel her touch!” Stopfer said.
In-person interactions like these are critical as people age, said Jeffrey Burr, a gerontology professor at the University of Massachusetts in Boston. His research focuses on the link between social relationships and health. “It’s very important to get out to see not just your relatives, but your older neighbors and friends and people who go to your church.”
People who are isolated are less likely to keep doctor appointments or follow medical advice, such as taking their prescriptions regularly, he said. It’s because there’s no one to encourage or remind them to do those things.
Studies also show isolated older adults are less physically active, more prone to sleep disorders, anxiety and depression, and less likely to eat a healthy diet.
“That has negative consequences for your cardiovascular health, your immune system and your nervous system, as well,” Burr said.
But while social isolation is considered a risk factor for many aging-related illnesses, that doesn’t mean everyone who lives alone will have those problems, said Judy Poey, a former health investigator now working as a health program officer for the United Way of Central Maryland.
“It’s a risk factor,” she said. “It’s not deterministic.”
Poey led a 2017 study published in The Gerontologist that showed living alone and feelings of loneliness or perceived isolation were associated with greater cognitive difficulty in older adults. At the same time, those who had more social support and engagement had a lower risk for all types of dementia.
She now oversees a program that delivers “stress relief” kits to community members, with tools such as a stress ball and soothing noise makers. They also include a list of questions to help people identify issues that can arise from social isolation, such as, “Are you comfort eating?” and “Are you skipping meals?”
With the kit comes a number to call if they want someone to talk to, or need to be connected to other services, such as meal deliveries. “It’s a way to check in on our neighbors,” Poey said.
When in-person social interactions aren’t possible, technology can help, Burr said. Video chats or even phone calls allow at least some form of social contact. But, he cautioned, it isn’t enough. “I think of it as supplemental. It’s better than nothing.”
Stopfer used video chats to stay in contact with her children throughout the pandemic. She also used the internet to widen her mahjong network, meeting new players online and even participating in virtual tournaments.
While she’s now fully vaccinated, she still limits in-person contact. The community center at her retirement village remains closed, as does the pool. Not all of her neighbors wear masks, so she’s not yet comfortable socializing with them.
“I’m still really feeling isolated,” she said. “It’s tough, but when I feel I’m sinking, I think of my kids.”
Poey said it’s important to have conversations with aging family members about how much social interaction they want or need, not just during the pandemic, but even as more typical social activities resume.
“Some people prefer more social contact, some people don’t. Some people prefer more ‘me’ time,” she said.
But, if someone develops symptoms of cognitive decline, that’s the time to talk to a health care professional to figure out next steps, Poey said.
“Do they live with a family member or friends or seek formal supports if this happens? What is the plan?”
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